MFM is the place where the woman (even one with some submissive inclinations) gets to take the lead in ways that aren't necessarily typical in hetero sex. It tends to bring out a new side of her that is pretty primal. My favorite thing, for that reason.
I've heard about a lot of bad threesomes, but never had one, probably because I/we always do what you did - talk a lot about expectations and boundaries, get comfortable with each other, take some time to build the sexual energy, and treat the other people like people (not sex toys).
Glad it all went well and thanks for sharing your experience.