My husband James is my soul mate and yes, he's very much like me. Although Nat isn't exactly evil Spock (that made me smile), he is different from me in just about every way possible, except for the few ways that we are exactly alike. I think of it more like the yin/yang symbol where the black and white each have a dot of the other in them and fit together to form a more cohesive whole.

TFs rarely end up married and if they do it's because they've done a huge amount of healing work because that's needed to bring in the stability element.

Thanks for the discussion and for your good wishes.