My "view" comes out of 40 years of research on the subject done almost exclusively by men. It's a mainstream psychological view - as demonstrated by the new APA guidelines, as well as a mainstream sociological view. It's what men who have been interviewed in large-scale studies have reported about what is expected of them in order to be "real men" and the ways that has often negatively impacted their health and happiness. As noted in the OP, not all men adhere to every aspect of the Man Box but all men do feel pressure to do so. And as I also already noted, sometimes that pressure comes from women.
Many "traditional" masculine norms that nearly all guys are indoctrinated into are demonstrably harmful to men, to women, and to society. That's not me deciding that - it's me reporting an extremely well-documented and mainstream science-based point of view.
I have 10.6k followers, 60% of which are men - guys who apparently have more capacity for self-reflection and nuanced thought than you. Wishing you luck with your provincial, fragile, ascientific outlook...
“Thirteen years in the making, they draw on more than 40 years of research showing that traditional masculinity is psychologically harmful and that socializing boys to suppress their emotions causes damage that echoes both inwardly and outwardly.”
“Though men benefit from patriarchy, they are also impinged upon by patriarchy,” says Ronald F. Levant, EdD, a professor emeritus of psychology at the University of Akron and co-editor of the APA volume “The Psychology of Men and Masculinities.” Levant was APA president in 2005 when the guideline-drafting process began and was instrumental in securing funding and support to get the process started.
