Nice evasion of my question. I'm a social scientist who studies this topic, and I've also been happily married for over 30 years. Humans are only using their conscious minds about 2% of the time, and men are even less trained than women in self-awareness. They often complain about women rather than investing some effort into becoming more self-aware because scapegoating the other person is always easier than being self-responsible, but it doesn't mean it gets a pass.

And I didn’t give any advice or reference decades so I don’t know what you’re on about…