No, people trying to force other people into boxes invented by strangers hundreds of years ago is the problem. If people feel lonely and disconnected it's a function of modern issues with the types of social connections that humans need to thrive, aka get of your fucking phone and go create relationships with real humans.

If you need someone else to tell you who you are and how you are allowed to be, that in and of itself is the problem. Go be a person, an individual - stop relying on society to validate you or tell you how to act. Pretending that there's some sort of artificial binary, rather than infinite individual expressions of sex is just plain silly and turning a blind eye to observable reality.

Do you honestly want somebody else to tell you who you are allowed to be? If so, I feel sorry for you.