No, the problem was that you had grown up in an environment where it ever even occurred to you to try to overpower your mother or that you needed someone who could physically overpower you around to threaten you into good behavior. That's messed up!

And what happens to the 77% of kids who today aren't growing up in a male/female household? Are they all running amok and wreaking havoc? Nope, mostly not - not if they are getting the love and support that they need. The kids who have parents that fight and stepdads they hate are way, way more likely to be causing problems than ones with single mothers.

"These details completely transform study outcomes. For example, boys raised by a mother and stepfather (a two-parent home) have the highest negative outcomes, much more than those raised by a single mother. In fact, juvenile delinquency and substance abuse are highest among children raised by parents in hostile marriages (two-parent homes). (source)"