No, you know that isn't the issue because you've admitted to me before that you don't have confidence- without confidence in yourself, it's hard to find someone to connect with. Women (except for few really shallow ones) don't really care about station or money - they have their own. That's something men care about and assume that women do too, but they really don't.
https://www.menshealth.com/sex-women/a19535604/top-20-traits-she-wants/
Recent online surveys of more than 1,000 women between the ages of 21 and 54 (one was conducted by Princeton, New Jersey’s opinion Research Corporation; the other was done on BestLifeOnline.com) found that women value personality far more than physical attractiveness. What women want in a man is faithfulness and dependability, a sense of humor, the ability to listen, and a sense of style. Only 13 percent of women cited muscular build as a factor in physical attractiveness. On the other hand, 66 percent of women said moral integrity will “make me quiver.”
A relentless focus on “mating value,” narrowly conceived, also contrasts with an analysis of several data sets reporting what characteristics men and women find more and less important in a partner. These show that for the past seventy-five years, across a number of different countries, the most important attributes in a long-term partner for both women and men have nothing to do with youthful fertility traded for resources.
Fine, Cordelia. Testosterone Rex: Myths of Sex, Science, and Society (p. 75). W. W. Norton & Company. Kindle Edition.
As noted above, both men and women tend to want someone who is a lot like them as far as social assets, but the truth is, in general women care about looks and earning potential a lot less than men do. “Good looks are less important to women — men who score between 5–9 on ‘attractiveness’ actually receive more messages than men who score 10/10,” finds an Oxford University analysis of 150,000 dating profiles. “Both sexes have become less concerned with the income or education level of a potential partner.”
Your issue is not status or money, it's confidence - and believing the BS stories that men keep telling each there which are mostly about what they find impressive in other men, and that have nothing to do with what actual women care about. I don't really think that adhering more closely to the Man Box would have helped you with confidence.
