Nope - and refusing to understand what I'm saying doesn't get you off the hook. If someone is telling someone else what they personally think, feel, or know, that is inappropriate for anyone. But that's not what women who are complaining about patriarchy are doing. They aren't talking about individual men - they are talking about men as a demographic - something that is both objectively measurable and that they also have personal experience with throughout life. It is not only appropriate for them to do so, it's vital in changing the culture for the better.

If a woman says to you, "Hey Curmudgeon, you're a rapist simply because you are a man" I would be the first to condemn them for saying that - but that isn't what they are saying. They are saying that no matter the percentage of men who actually perpetrate rape, an ungodly percentage of women will be raped, and that we live in a culture that not only tolerates that, it spends a lot of time blaming the victims - and that men bear a huge amount of responsibility for allowing rape culture to go on unaddressed. If you can't see the difference between those two things, it's because you don't want to - because then you would have to actually get off your butt and do something to contribute to addressing the problems in our society. It's a lot easier for you and other men to say, "I didn't do anything" and believe that this is enough or that it absolves you when in truth, you not doing anything is a huge part of the problem. It's what allows the dysfunctional culture where domination and where control of women are mainstream masculine norms - one of the central roots of rape culture - to continue unimpeded.