Not really. Jonah Hill was jealous and feeling threatened because his attractive surfer girlfriend was being photographed in a bikini (as part of her job) and talking to other men (as part of her job as a surf instructor) - also both things that are perfectly normal activities for an adult woman even if they aren't a part of her job. Rather than confronting that those feelings were due to his own insecurities and figuring out how to manage them, perhaps in conjunction with his girlfriend by talking through what was going on for him, he made it her responsibility to manage those feelings by stopping doing anything that might trigger HIM. But his triggers are not her problem to fix. She can support him, but it's not her job to contort herself into a person very different from who she actually is just so he can feel better about himself.

Sarah Stroh wrote an excellent story about this, detailing what Hill could have said and done that would have been appropriate instead of controlling:

"Take responsibility for his feelings.

This is the clear first step in having any conversation like this. Hill should have started with his own internal state. For example, “I was just on Instagram and saw a bunch of pictures of you surfing in a bikini. I noticed I felt really uncomfortable. I guess I worry that men seeing them will think you are available when really we are together.”

Here, Jonah is not blaming her for the existence of the pictures. He’s simply sharing his inner reality with his partner.

Express a need or desire.

Next, he should have focused on his own needs that he felt weren’t being met and said something like, “I need to feel important and seen in my relationships. I’d like to know that others also know we are together.”

Now Jonah has actually stated a need that is totally fair for someone to have. He has a need to feel seen and acknowledged as a partner and a desire for their relationship to also be known by the other people in their lives. Notice, here, he’s still focused mainly on himself and his world.

He’s not telling her what she needs to do.

Collaborate.

“I’m wondering if there’s a way you can help me feel more like an important and special part of your life. How about we get dinner on Friday and discuss what might work for both of us.”

Here, Jonah invites his partner to collaborate with him so that they both, as adults, can move forward together.

We want our partners to feel good about helping us get our needs met. We don’t want them to feel like children following our rules “or else they will face the consequences”.

When we’re feeling something painful, it may seem like the most effective and easy fix is to simply tell our partner to get rid of the exact thing that triggered us (in this case, sexy photos). It can even make you feel powerful and high, which is especially alluring when you’re in a place where you feel the opposite: out of control, powerless.

But being in a relationship is not about seeing how much power you can wield over someone else."