Nothing is inherently "bad" unless it harms the person or others -as a whole lot of traditional masculine norms do. Traditional feminine norms mostly just harm women by teaching them to be people pleasers who put themselves last and who never advocate for their own needs. Neither of these are good.

People should be allowed to be whomever they naturally are and want to be (as long as it's not hurting others or society). The worst part about gender norms is the policing into artificial boxes. That being said, there is 40 years of actual sociological and psychological data about what parts of traditional norms are harmful and pretending that it's up for discussion is again, somewhere between naive and disingenuous.

No, looking to progress is not in the least bit as limiting as old norms because it allows for men to be full human beings in the way that old norms did not - just as it allows for women to be whatever manifestation of "femininity" that works for them.

If you choose to be a taciturn lumberjack who loves sports all of your own volition or a frilly, woman who loves to cook all on your own - that's great - no problem - but we don't live in a world that allows people to be who they naturally are because they are indoctrinated from birth into norms that they may or may not actually resonate with - and that's not OK. Saying "I just prefer women who are like this" doesn't take place in a vacuum where that might be acceptable. It takes place in a culture that comes with a lot of anachronism and frankly problematic norms. Until we live in cultures where people are freely making their own choices and not being messaged about who they should be and who other people should be, your premise really doesn't fly.