Of course all sorts of people can be terrible to each other, but pretending like there are no over-arching dynamics that come out of patriarchy is intentionally being blind to something you don't want to see.
This paragraph from the OP is spot on from a sociological perspective: "From a young age, men are often socialized to equate their worth and masculinity with conquest and dominance. Cultural narratives that glorify the pursuit of women as a measure of success can instill toxic beliefs about entitlement and ownership."
That's not a woman making something up to demonize men, and it's not a dynamic that equally applies to how women are socialized. It's extremely well written and spot on about how societal dynamics impact violence against women - a mainstream cultural dynamic that is well documented. The American Psychological Association issued new guidelines for working with men and boys a while back that speaks to this - and how harmful this kind of "traditional" socialization is to men and boys - as well as to the women in their lives.
The fact that you (and a lot of other men) either don't know that or don't accept it as valid is a huge part of why we can't make much progress as society toward real equality. We have to look at actual sociological dynamics that impact us all and shift them to more pro-social ones together - but we can't do that if men won't accept that many aspects of how they've been socialized are harmful - to them and to everyone else.
https://www.apa.org/monitor/2019/01/ce-corner
"But just as this old psychology left out women and people of color and conformed to gender-role stereotypes, it also failed to take men’s gendered experiences into account. Once psychologists began studying the experiences of women through a gender lens, it became increasingly clear that the study of men needed the same gender-aware approach, says Levant.
The main thrust of the subsequent research is that traditional masculinity—marked by stoicism, competitiveness, dominance and aggression—is, on the whole, harmful."
Of course, women can do bad things too - but statistically speaking, the vast majority of violence is perpetrated by men. Something like 35% of all women murdered in the US are killed by their male current or former domestic partners. Only about 6% of men are killed by theirs - and a certain percentage of that takes place in self-defense. The type of domestic violence that is about control is overwhelmingly (like 90%) perpetrated by men against women.
You need to GET REAL! I'm sorry that it hurts your feelings to hear about how masculine culture and socialization is harmful, but you know what hurts my feelings? To constantly hear how little most men care about the fact that 1 in 3 women will be raped, 85% start getting sexually harassed as children, and that systemic discrimination against women is still alive and kicking in most industries, etc., etc., etc. To have to be faced every damned day with how most men are just fine with the status quo and want to use their time and their voice to complain about women daring to be upset and demanding better rather than these men becoming an actual part of the solution. It's a fucking kick in the teeth every single day to have that made clear to you - and yet, despite that, I still have the bandwidth for reading about and supporting Black experience in this culture, about LGBTQ issues and pain, as well as supporting the men who are actually trying to take on and re-envision masculinity in this culture.
Why don't you try not centering yourself in this scenario for a change? If I went on and on every day about how white people shouldn't be blamed for systemic racism and the wholesale disenfranchisement of Black folks for hundreds of years, and how that's still taking place despite some improvements, and that I didn't do anything, so I don't want to hear about it, and Black people do bad things too - you would think I was acting like a selfish, entitled, asshat and you might even go so far as to tell me that. And you'd be absolutely in the right to do so because it's petty and fragile and weak to not want to face that stuff even if I personally haven't done any of it. I've still benefited from that shit even if I never wanted to. My job as a decent human being is to try to help rectify that - not to be constantly and ongoingly defensive that I have to hear about other people's pain.
This is an Apples to Apples analogy, my friend.
The World Health organization says that 1 in 3 women will experience physical and/or sexual violence in their lifetime, nearly all of it at the hands of an intimate partner. That shocking statistic is what the author of this essay is trying to address because that shit doesn’t happen because some men are jerks; it happens because of problematic and harmful patriarchal socialization.
If you aren’t being a part of the solution, then you are being a part of the problem.
