Of course everyone is complicit to some extent in the culture, but it's traditional masculine norms that drive violence, rape culture, and things like suicide in men - and if you aren't challenging those and working to shift them towards something healthier than you are specifically complicit in what the men who adhere to those norms do when they act on them. You are either a part of the solution or you are a part of the problem. It's a pity you have made it clear which one you intend to be.

Men’s violence against women is a worldwide epidemic having little to do with the US specifically. Around the world, fully one third of all women have been beaten and/or raped by a man; femicide is a huge problem. I’ve got another quote for you:

In some cases, old-fashioned guilt keeps men from delving in too deeply. They are ashamed of their own behavior and would rather not be reminded of it. Some men avert their eyes because they are afraid of what they might learn, not only about themselves but about men around them: their brothers and friends. Finally, many men participate — in peer cultures and as consumers — in what feminists have described as a “rape and battering culture.” They laugh at sexist jokes, go out with the guys to strip clubs, and consume misogynistic pornography. So even though most men are not perpetrators, they nonetheless contribute to — and derive pleasure from — a sexist cultural climate where women are put down and sexually degraded. Thus they have little motivation to examine it critically and a lot of incentive to look away.

Katz, Jackson. The Macho Paradox (p. 25). Sourcebooks. Kindle Edition.