OK, but it's not primarily children who are having a conniption fit about this stuff. It's adult men who should have the maturity and the self-awareness and the ability to remove themselves somewhat from indoctrination to be able to parse out the difference.

Most women I know (myself included) have spent decades trying to deprogram ourselves from a lot of our early childhood indoctrination and subsequent culture pressures to stick with the old stuff. I see some guys doing that, but many, many more clinging to it rather desperately. Clearly masculinity in our culture offers benefits - even if there are obvious downsides to the way it's constructed, but still...

"This is killing you!" - Nope, stop attacking me...

I mean, that's not a very sensical stance or one that seems very evolutionary to me. It's obvious to anyone with a brain that you are not the way you've been taught to be - you are a separate entity and that stuff is culture and socialization. I don't use the term "toxic" because it's too inflammatory but shouldn't the difference between problematic men and problematic masculinity (a social construct) be kind of obvious?

Again, not trying to be antagonistic here. Just trying to understand something that makes zero sense to me.