OK, last time and then I'm moving on. You've said in other threads that you believe in patriarchy, that you are happy that you were "brought up to be a man" and that you will teach your son the same things. You told me how much it has benefited you, both personally and professionally. So, in other words, the fact that your very professional and stubborn (your words) partner defers to you on making decisions is by your own admission a function of a relationship hierarchy aka patriarchy which you have embraced and in your own words see as beneficial. Trying to now pretend like this hierarchy could possibly be natural or reasonable is a hypothetical that is irrelevant because you don't believe in it - because you have told me that you believe in hierarchy, you believe in "being the man" etc. Is this now in question?

If you are not sure whether the "patriarchy paradigm" applies to you, then why were you telling me before about how greatly it had served you in your life? Why were you defending it so vehemently? This doesn't make any sense unless you are now actually reviewing and revising everything that you've said in the past - which I'm guessing isn't what you are doing. So unless you can explain to me exactly what you are playing at with all this, I think we're done here.