OK, you are literally contradicting yourself and then adding in specious elements as a deflection from that. If the main and only important difference between men and women is that men on average have better upper body strength and women can get pregnant, you wouldn't be investing so much energy into all this.

"Being a pastor isn't anymore male or female than being an engineer is. But, men and women have different strengths and weaknesses." Other than average upper body strength and pregnancy, what exactly are these - given that women can do all sorts of "male" things quite easily and well and lots of men can do all sorts of "female" things quite easily and well.

That right there is not enough to be anti-feminist about since there are probably no feminists out there who would disagree with you that only people with wombs can get pregnant and that on average, men have better upper body strength. You aren't being honest about what your real objections are.