One of the primary aspects of misogyny is that women are out of line if they take their attention off of men (and children) "where it belongs" and put some of that attention on themselves.

"Her humanity may hence be held to be owed to other human beings, and her value contingent on her giving moral goods to them: life, love, pleasure, nurture, sustenance, and comfort, being some such. This helps to explain why she is often understood perfectly well to have a mind of her own, yet punished in brutal and inhumane ways when that mind appears to be oriented to the wrong things, in the wrong ways, to the wrong people—including herself and other women."

Manne, Kate. Down Girl (pp. 22-23). Oxford University Press. Kindle Edition.

You get to tell your own stories, from your own perspective, and those who don't like that, including certain women, can just deal with it.