One of the worst aspects of patriarchy, I think, is that women are taught they have no value unless they marry and have children. For that reason, the "relationship escalator" is always looming - is this headed towards monogamy, a picket fence, and 2.2 children? There's nothing wrong with those things - I've been happily married for over 30 years, but as a polyamorous person, I see the value of letting relationships find their level - whatever that may be. I'm happy to hear about more women doing just that -and perhaps in the process finding greater ways to prioritize their own needs and desires.