Opening up our longterm monogamous relationship benefitted us both in many ways, but besides there being no more secrets related to attraction to others, I found out a lot more about myself. I also enjoy feeling like an individual choosing the ways that I am related to others rather than simply one half of a couple. Making that transition takes time and effort because it really is a whole different kind of relationship style, but we found it really does work for us and we're both happier and more in love than ever.