Our spouses know about our relationship, which does make a lot of things easier. He has kind of a "don't ask don't tell" thing with his wife, which isn't ideal, but is fine. My husband actually treats Nat like an extended member of the family, which is perfect, since he is family to me. We used to see each other when we lived nearby, in the very early parts of our relationship but I haven't seen him in many years now that we live far away. Each time we try to do that, something crops up and interferes. I would love to see him again, and hope to do that someday, but the intensity of our connection might mean that would be a bit disruptive all around. Still... someday.
We are in regular communication, however. Mostly we write to each other since talking on the phone is more difficult to schedule and is so overwhelming that I always cry. It's a highly atypical relationship but it works for us.
As for the cosmic connection, when you think of your TF, is there a feeling of just being a part of each other that doesn't really have to do with the everyday world? Something that doesn't relate to what they do or what they say, but that is just a really deep place of being intertwined? That's the cosmic connection, the place where you are two souls incarnated from the same source, two sides of a coin, as it were. That's about more than the relationship and it's a thing that cannot be severed. Even if you were to cut of all communication and never speak to each other again, that connection would continue as strongly as ever. You would still feel them in your soul.
When I'm lonely for Nat or when we're going through a rough patch, I purposely invoke that place where we are so intertwined, where we are never apart, where we have never been hurt, and remind myself that nothing can touch that. It feels kind of like a pinky orange ball of light to me. The relationship where we interact in everyday life is good, but I've found that the more I try to make it into a conventional relationship, the more problems arise. When I just let it be what it is, and surrender to the magic of what is there, regardless of what happens in the 3D world, it's amazing and I am happy, even with the distance, even with the not seeing or touching each other. It's been a hard lesson to learn because I want him so much in the usual ways. But, we're always together, no matter what, and when I remember that, instead of trying to force the circumstances to comply, we're all a lot happier.
Hope that helps.
