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Outdated Relationship Styles Don’t Lead To Happiness In Modern Times
Women initiate 70% of divorces for this reason
When my husband James was a little boy his parents built a new house. This was an exciting thing for them, but it also tells you in one snapshot how his father related to the rest of the family. Their new house was a three-bedroom, two-bath home. It had a master bedroom, another bedroom that James and his brother shared, and the third bedroom was their father’s den.
Dad got the master bathroom and his wife shared the other one with the two boys. He was the king of the house, and he figured it was what he deserved. The rest of the family would be fine. After all, he went to work every day. His wife did too, and then she came home and made dinner and took care of the house and the kids. But, as the man, he still deserved a place to get away from things and relax after a long day.
The builder had to convince their dad to make the boy's bedroom a bit bigger since it was really too small for two people to occupy as originally conceived. This meant that his study would have to be slightly smaller than he really wanted, but at last, he conceded, probably shamed into it by the builder. They lived like that for a couple of years, until James’ parents ultimately divorced when he was 12.
