Patriarchy is hostile to your very being as a man. It's a dominance based hierarchy intended to chew you up and spit you out for the benefit of only a few men at the apex of the pyramid of power. Think of every kingdom or capitalist system ever and how it gets all the little guys to serve the power structure by promising them that at least they can control and abuse women.

That's what you are defending. Great job succumbing to the brainwashing!