Patriarchy, that's who! I was 50 years old before I fully realized and embraced that my body actually is mine, belongs only to me, and is not there for the pleasure and enjoyment of anyone else unless I give consent to that. I am not alone in this. Many young women report that when they have sex, they aren't in their own bodies, but sort of looking down on themselves evaluating how they appear at the time, rather than experiencing what they are feeling at the time. That's messed up. If you are the father of a daughter(s) and even if you aren't, I would hope you would care about that.

This social system has fucked us all up, but that's one of the primary ways that it messes with women. To be clear, this is not a dig at men as people. It's a dig at the men who have been indoctrinated into this social system and act out it's precepts to the detriment of others, but also themselves.