People should be honest about their real parameters, and not just what they think is acceptable to their partner. For example, I never understood why rock stars don’t just say to their girlfriends/wives, “I’m going to be on the road for the next 5 months and I’m going to fuck a few groupies. It doesn’t mean I don’t love you and I’ll always use condoms.” Then there is no breach of trust, which is the real harm, not the meaningless fucking.