Perfection isn't realistic it's true, but I've been married to the same man for over 32 years and together for 4 before that. We're happier than ever largely because we've worked hard on our relationship, on healing our own baggage, and on decoupling from genderized boxes that tell us who we should be rather than letting us be who we are. We've certainly had our fair share of ups and downs but I love being married to him, and it just keeps getting better and better.