Perhaps Simon has improved since I blocked him a few months back. I hope that's the case. From my perspective, all he does is tell women how to be more palatable to a fragile male ego that is centering himself in a narrative that isn't about him. He spends little time listening to women's voices and a lot of time telling women how he knows what's best for them. In my opinion, he spends far too little time telling men how to reimagine masculinity. I find him extremely offensive and immature — hence the blocking.
There is going to be no more carrot from women. We're effing fed up with asking nicely and having it get us almost nowhere. Men need to do their own inner healing work and start standing up for a better culture anyhow.
When I pointed out to Simon (with quotes and clear examples) how MLK wasn't "nice" in the way he's demanding women be, he had to backpedal on his assertion that we should be more like King. Even though he absolutely knows now and agrees that he had a whitewashed view of King, he still got right back on to the same schtick, demanding that women be "nicer." He seems to refuse to learn or grow, and continually centers himself and his own feelings in the story of women's pervasive abuse, discrimination, and marginalization. It's effing disgusting. Try reading Mark Greene instead. He's an actual professional men's work guy, who writes with equal parts sensitivity to how confronting some of this stuff is and a no-nonsense stance that men need to do better - for women, but also for themselves.
