Pretending that domination and control of women isn't a mainstream aspect of male socialization is somewhere between naive and delusional. Honestly, I expected better from you than that. As the author notes, "Traditional gender roles often dictate that men should be dominant, assertive, and in control while women are relegated to passive nurturing roles." That's not exactly in dispute or controversial in any way.

The American Psychological Association has recently issued new guidelines for working with men and boys that takes this kind of socialization into account. This doesn't mean that men are inherently inferior or terrible - it means their socialization is harmful and destructive - to them as well as to others.

https://www.apa.org/education-career/ce/1360513

"Men must confront the toxic narratives surrounding masculinity and redefine their worth beyond superficial measures of conquest or control." - what exactly is objectionable about that? Isn't that the type of healthy masculinity that you typically stand for?

Honestly, if "good men" can't get past their hurt feelings about how terrible mainstream masculinity is to women and to the larger society, we have no actual hope of ever changing it for the better.

I honestly don't believe there are any but a very few real male allies out there - and you have just confirmed this for me. Shaking my head in disappointment....