Pretending "we're all individuals" and that no broad sociological dynamics exist is what people do who want to evade responsibility for the ways that they contribute to the ills of the world. Mainstream norms of masculinity demonstrably drive violence, they drive rape, and they also drive loneliness and dysfunction for men. "I didn't do it, don't lump me in with them" is a complete and utter cop out. You are either a part of the problem or you are a part of the solution. If you aren't actively working to challenge the problematic aspects of society and instead are wasting all of your breath in being indignant, you are a part of the problem.