Same - I love this aspect of our relationship. Having rich, interesting discussions is one of the glues that keeps our relationship strong and vibrant.

I didn't discover the "sex goddess" aspect of myself until I was 50, so glad to hear that you're uncovering her before then. What a different culture we'd have if this wasn't trained out of women and suppressed in them from a young age. Instead, we teach girls that their sexuality is for the pleasure and benefit of men - not for them (to then share as they wish). It's a problem.

I've read another of Nagoski's books, but will check that one out too. Thanks for the suggestion and the great article.