Saying, "If you feel condescended to" instead of owning that if I (and most of the other women you interact with on Medium) feel that way it's because of how you acted, and it's not an actual apology.

Like I said before, only 2% of thought is conscious. I'm willing to believe that you don't intend to come across this way, but also know that you are being run by your subconscious, because unless we've done the work to really become self-aware, we all are - and even self-aware people to some extent.

I don't need your coaching on how to "spread my message." Most people interact with it quite positively and with great interest, and besides that, there's the fact that I'm secure enough in myself that I don't need other people's validation to feel good about myself and what I do with my time. That doesn't mean I take being treated poorly laying down, but it also doesn't impact how I feel about myself or what I put out in the world.

If you are serious about examining your remarks, I think you may discover that your intentions and what actually came out are not exactly in alignment. And if you look at why you have a problem with interactions with so many women on Medium you just may discover that you really are the linchpin in that dynamic.