Snort 🤦‍♀️ - you really are just plain silly. You haven't the faintest idea of what you're talking about. Literally every single thing you've said here is demonstrably scientifically false. It's just made up cultural narrative that seek to justify patriarchy.

I've already quoted to you from Scientific American, Science, and an array of noted anthropologists. Why don't you go do your own research if you don't believe all the science I've already presented to you?

You can start by reading:

Mothers and Others by Sarah Hrdy,

The Dawn of Everything by David Graeber,

Tribe by Sebastian Junger,

The Chalice and the Blade by Riane Eisler,

Hierarchy in the Forest by Christopher Boehm

When God Was a Woman by Merlin Stone

Survival of the Friendliest by Brian Hare and Vanessa Woods

The Darker Angels of Our Nature by Philip Dwyer

War, Peace, and Human nature written by 17 subject matter experts.

Testosterone Rex by Cordelia Fine

And that's just off the top of my head. Come back after you've read and understood each of those books - all chock full of the research of other scientists - and then we'll talk.

Edit: the only thing you’ve said that is correct is that most violence is directed at men — by other men. Men perpetrate over 90% of all violence. But, the sort that is directed at men is largely impersonal. It’s mostly bar fights, gang wars, muggings, and the like. The sort that is directed against women is personal and largely done to exercise control and domination. Nearly half of all women murdered in the US are killed by current or former male domestic partners. Most rapes are date rapes. 1 in 10 women has been severely physically harmed by a partner. None of that is inevitable or related to biology. It’s cultural — and demonstrably the way that masculinity is constructed in patriarchal societies. That absolutely can and needs to be challenged and interupted. Men need to lead the way in doing that, and the men who refuse to do that are culpable in the violence that ensues.

Circling back around to the OP that started this:

If more men spoke up before, during, or after incidents of verbal, physical, or sexual abuse by their peers, they would help to create a climate where the abuse of women — emotional, physical, sexual — would be stigmatized and seen as incompatible with male group norms. That is, a man who engaged in such behavior would lose status among his male peers and forfeit the approval of older men.

Ultimately, this would cause a shift in male culture such that some men’s sexist abuse of women and girls would be regarded — by other men — not only as distasteful but as utterly unacceptable. In this new climate, individuals would be strongly discouraged from acting out in abusive ways because of the anticipated negative consequences: loss of respect, friends, and status, and greater likelihood of facing both legal and nonlegal sanctions. In fact, if men’s violence against women truly carried a significant stigma in male culture, it is possible that most incidents of sexist abuse would never happen.

Katz, Jackson. The Macho Paradox (p. 154). Sourcebooks. Kindle Edition.