So, they want fun, kinky sex before they "settle down" and then are fine with never having that again because they're "off the market"? Or are they planning on cheating with a fun, kinky woman once they've "settled down" with a boring "relationship material" woman? I don't understand this stuff and it seems like it is now much, much worse than 30 years ago when I was first dating - and that's upsetting.