So which is it? Not quite true or yes, you agree?

Patriarchy harms men too - and one of the ways that it does that is by bullying and harassing men and boys who won't comply with the Man Box. So yes, men are both the victims of this and the perpetrators - which is why it's so fucked up, although women sometimes participate in this as well.

Men Describe What It Takes to Be a ‘Real Man’

Paul Kivel conceptualized the “Act Like a Man Box” in the early 1980’s, by asking high school boys what the rules were for being a man. It turned out the rules were pretty straightforward. They included:

• Hide all emotions

• Treat women as less, have control over women

• Be tough, never admit self doubt, fear

• Police and bully other boys who don’t conform.