So, you feel confident in your assessment that a professional body of psycholgists doesn't actually know what they are talking about, but you do? Nice....

And this is what you said about "acting out."

"I mean I could scream at them, tell them that they are wrong and I shouldn't need to deal with it - but then actions have consequences and it's something a lot of these unconscious bias/ racism / gender theory writers don't seem to understand. If you act out in a certain way then you have to expect the appropriate response."

The fact that you don't even realize you are saying bigoted and offensive things indicates to me that you are so deeply in cognitive dissonance on this topic (perhaps due to the psychological abuse that you have experienced in the past) that there is no point in trying to have an actual logic based discussion. For that reason, I will no longer attempt to do so.