Some good thoughts here, but we can't heal our culture or the part that patriarchal masculine gender norms have played in harming it without reckoning with that very aspect. Yes, men need empowering, positive role models but that has to also entail some "restorative justice." Guys need to realize that the masculine norms they've been indoctrinated into are not the same thing as who they are as men - because that's where the friction is - believing they are being shamed and attacked for who they are rather than the part they have been taught to play - something that harms men as well as everyone else.

All "Truth and Reconciliation" initiatives around the world involve some measure of taking responsibility for the part one has played in harming others, even if that was not conscious or intentional. There can be no healing or real progress without that part. But, giving men the opportunity to be leaders in shifting the culture away from problematic norms and social dynamics creates something positive and empowering for them to do that they can be proud of. We just need a tipping point of men to make that be seen as cool and strong and something that more guys want to emulate.