Sounds like this guy's shock-o-meter went off that women are actually sexual beings who sometimes want more than kisses and cuddling and he wanted to make sure you knew that you were in the wrong for wanting to do that. I love MFM, but I do not love the way it takes place in porn, so we don't do it that way. In most swinger/sex-postivive communities the unwritten rule is that the woman is the lead in an MFM. She directs the action and the pace, and it's awesome to not only have the attention of two men, but to get to do that part as well. That guy needs to piss off.