Thank you for writing this. I've been wanting to do something similar for years and could never quite figure out how to say it - something you did very well. It took me decades to understand how being given up for adoption left me with deep and profound wounds, even though I eventually went to a loving home with parents who really wanted me. As I began to navigate the trauma, there were definitely times where I felt it would have been much better to have never been born at all. I don't feel that way now, but I think it's important to talk about adoption more holistically, as you have, because it's not a clear win-win situation for everyone as it's often made out to be.