Thank you for your kind words and I’m so glad to have assisted in helping you find your way. What I keep getting lessons in and perhaps am starting to truly internalize is that surrender is the key in these things (and maybe all human relationships). What I mean by that is letting go, not trying to make anything, in particular, happen, letting it find it’s own level in the moment, and trusting that it will all be OK (which might also mean that it runs its course).

I’ve just gone through another round of this because what I like in a relationship is consistency, and that is not what Nat can offer. We’ve been together for 4 years, so at this point I should be able to trust that his feelings haven’t changed just because his time and ability to convey them has. And, I’ve also realized that when I don’t believe in that, it’s about my own wounding and not really about him at all.

I think time will tell for you if this is going to last or not, but in any case, trying to “manage” the process isn’t going to affect the outcome. Learning to ride the horse in the direction that it’s going means more enjoyment of the ride at the moment, and that is what I’d recommend to anyone (reminder to myself included).