Thanks, although I didn't really go into here, one of the things that has contributed to our happiness and our commitment to each other was opening up our relationship. Becoming poly forced us to be more honest and vulnerable with each other and to stop relying so much on the known structure of marriage as designed by other people long ago - and instead to truly co-create our relationship together that worked for both of us. I believe it to be directly responsible for moving away from strict gender roles and interacting with each other more as partners rather than as husband and wife. We're not looking to date anybody new right now, and the other relationships we do have are long term, but he and I have always been each other's top priority and that's the way it's going to stay.