Thanks as always for your thoughts. I read something the other day from a middle aged lesbian talking about how she used to conform to ideas of what it means to be butch, and only later found a style that was more "her" rather than kind of wearing a costume to show identity. I have great respect for any people who find and go their own way, particularly when that may put them in physical danger.

The whole "I have sex with men but I'm not gay/bisexual" really intrigues me even though I understand the framework for it. It just seems like the ultimate self-delusion of an absurd society.