Thanks for reading and I agree, ideally partners would talk to each other to express what they want and need and the other would listen and be receptive. I certainly don’t endorse going on Ashley Madison just because things aren’t quite how you’d like them at home.

And, we also still live in a culture with a lot of sexual hang-ups. I’ve known women partnered with guys with suddenly low libido who won’t go get it checked out because they are embarrassed. I’ve known couples who grew up being taught that sex was kind of dirty and so only missionary sex on Saturday night with the lights off was acceptable and that a woman who wanted more was a slut — even within their marriage. I think we need to keep destigmatizing natural and healthy sexuality (whatever people want to do consensually) and encouraging people to talk about it. It’s one of the main reasons for this publication. Real communication is definitely the key!