Thanks for reading and yes, there really is a whole community here which has been great for me because it's more difficult to find that community IRL. I always say that both the best thing and the worst thing about ethical non-monogamy is that there are no preset rules - other than being ethical about it. Each relationship is co-created by the people involved in it. They truly are world-builders in every sense. (I might have to use that term at some point).

Women also get tired of the same ole same ole faster than men do. A lot of loss of libido for women is boredom. Plus, there's the whole autonomy thing. It just kind of lets them reinvent their roles and although you can do that without opening the relationship, it kind of goes with the territory.