Thanks for your thoughtful and sensitive response and although I agree that pigeonholing human beings is potentially dangerous, I also agree that there ought to be some way to differentiate between those for whom autism is a facet of who they are and those for whom it is an actual disability. Someone who rails against those who are looking for a cure is failing to take that segment of autistics into account - and that's something that I actually see all of the time. It completely marginalizes families like ours, and discounts the very real ways that autism is a serious disability for some people. It also discounts the hundreds of thousands of dollars that we've spent simply trying to improve our son's wellbeing and quality of life - not because we don't accept and love him as he is (which I get accused of all the time as well), but because we are trying every way we can to make his life more functional and enjoyable for him.

I don't mind someone writing about their own experience or saying that they don't feel the need for a cure for themselves. I do object to someone speaking for all autistics as if they are a monolith, and I object to all the times that I've been attacked for pointing out that some people would welcome a cure. Autism is an epidemic and it is not a blessing for a lot of people.