Thanks for your thoughtful comment. Unfortunately, the term patriarchy does spark some knee-jerk reactions, but it also is the sociologically correct one for describing our current social system. I've tried to educate around that and demonstrate all the ways that this isn't really just about men, but an entire system of social stratification because I think it's important to note how those all work together.

Yes, women surgeons do have better outcomes. Businesses with more women in leadership have better bottom lines. And still, there's a huge amount of institutional discrimination and refusal to accept that - in large part due to indoctrination around strict gender binaries. If we could all ease up on those I think it would make it easier to look at each other as human beings with individual strengths and challenges.

And, at the same time, women are not going to stop talking about the ways that thousands of years of marginalization, and abuse are still affecting them today because it's still actively going on. I can't find the story now, but I wrote something not long ago which included reports from Australia where female surgeons were routinely exposed to blatant sexual harassment, including demands for sexual favors from superiors. A lot of men don't care if women surgeons have on average better patient outcomes. They feel threatened by women in "male coded" spaces, and that has got to stop if we are ever going to improve anything. I think men need to take the lead on that and mentor and support each other in creating less binary, less dominance-oriented norms of masculinity.