Thanks for your thoughtful question. There aren't a lot of "how to" articles on Medium around things like this because they tend to be beyond the scope of a what a short essay can deliver. For example, learning to truly experience your emotions and to not stuff them probably requires at least a few sessions with a therapist - and maybe more than a few sessions, depending on how you were raised. Your particular habits and coping mechanisms may not be universal, and it's hard to address them in a broad and impersonal manner. These are deeply, deeply engrained cultural norms of masculinity that have been and continue to be reinforced around us everyday. If you can't swing therapy, then finding a book on the topic, or online information from reputable men's groups such as The Good Men project might be useful.

But, what we really need is a revolution where guys take on shifting these norms together and support each other in doing that. Where I'm coming from tends to be around calling the issues into attention because we can't solve problems that we don't recognize as such. A lot of what I address is erroneous cultural narratives where people have bought into false myths and then try to point them towards what the actual facts say instead.

I wish you all the best as you grapple with these things, and do definitely suggest that you seek some sort of support, even if it's books or YouTubes.