Thanks for your thoughts but it's hard not to look at that and ask just how thick or delusional someone has to be to assert that - it's clearly not what is being said AT ALL. It’s quite obvious that in a complex world, more than one thing can be true at a time and it strikes me that this is just a deflection to not have to deal with the fact that most of the people who hurt women are men. Most of the people who hurt men are also men. And none of this means that all men are bad. It's an intentional lack of nuance as a kind of red herring to deflect.
From a feminist theory perspective, it's because men have been messaged that their needs and concerns matter and that women are on earth to support and uphold that.
A woman not having her focus where it belongs (on the needs of men, or others in her care) is one of the things that is most triggering to misogynists. In this culture, women have been and to a large extent still are envisioned not so much as human beings but as “human givers.” Their purpose and social value is in being the caretakers of everyone else. Mothers, in particular, are supposed to put themselves last lest they be considered “selfish.”
Her humanity may hence be held to be owed to other human beings, and her value contingent on her giving moral goods to them: life, love, pleasure, nurture, sustenance, and comfort, being some such. This helps to explain why she is often understood perfectly well to have a mind of her own, yet punished in brutal and inhumane ways when that mind appears to be oriented to the wrong things, in the wrong ways, to the wrong people — including herself and other women.
Manne, Kate. Down Girl (pp. 22–23). Oxford University Press. Kindle Edition.
