Thanks, I appreciate you as a reader. As you've said, what you are describing is what takes place for "some women." As someone who has been female all her life, I've never actually known a woman who thought or acted in this way. There may in fact be some women who do this, but from my perspective, it's pretty much a false cultural narrative that comes out of patriarchy and that has little intersection with the majority of real women in the real world. Overwhelmingly, the women I have known are looking for real human partners who will treat them with the love and respect that they intend to give as well. This idea that women primarily want a man who is 6 feet tall, has a 6 figure income, and a bigger than a 6 inch penis is a myth. In a Pew study about attitudes of men as providers, it turns out that men actually value and believe that is important more than women do. It also revealed that both men and women think that being a compassionate and caring partner is the most important thing.

Confidence is attractive to both men and women, and so there may be a time when brasher guys do a little bit better, but pretty quickly, if all they've got is cockiness, and not real confidence, women get tired of that. As quieter men become more self-confident, they also become more attractive, but again this is a gross generalization. My first boyfriend was a guy named Roger who had coke bottle glasses. He wasn't "exciting" in the way that your cultural narrative depicts, but he was sweet to me and interested in me and we had a lot of fun together. We only broke up because we went away to colleges that were far apart. If you look out the window, all kinds of shapes and sizes of people are paired up together, and the women didn't all "settle" for "less exciting guys" after first going through all of the other ones first. This idea that the "Chads" get all the women is just incel talk. It has little basis in reality unless one believes that one is entitled to a certain type of woman and are upset that this is not easily forthcoming.

But whether or not we can absolutely agree on the social dyanmics here, my issue was with the way that you responded to the comment from a woman giving her personal experiences. If you had said something like, "That may be true for you, but I think some other women do this..." or something like that, I would have had no problem. Instead, you appeared to reinterpret her own thoughts and insights into her life for her, which really isn't cool (and happens all to often to many women).