Thanks! Non-monogamy has worked well for us, but I get that it isn’t for everyone. What’s most important is getting to that place where you are actively co-creating your relationship(s) rather than just plugging into pre-fab rules and structures. It can be somewhat difficult to do that if you’ve already unintentionally bought into all of that, but it sounds like you and your guy haven’t really done that and are figuring out how to make it work. Kudos!