That guy’s spiel about wanting to give you some professional tips about your clit has got to be about the worst line I’ve ever heard. But yes to all the rest of this! People (particularly women people) should pay attention to what their gut is saying, and talking about this with each other is one of the ways that we support each other doing better going against something that we’ve been taught all of our lives to do — to put other people’s wants and comfort above our own.