That’s a shitty response and you know it! The instances of men being raped by their wives is infinitesimal compared to the other way around.
A degree from Radcliffe did not contain the same prestige as a degree from Harvard.
The Ivies segregated women until 1977 and that is a darkness. “Harvard’s undergraduate population remained predominantly male, with about four men attending Harvard College for every woman studying at Radcliffe. Following the merger of Harvard and Radcliffe admissions in 1977, the proportion of female undergraduates steadily increased.”
Brown and Columbia were also shameful. Women were turned down and shunted off to separate campuses. When you were looking for work, guess which degrees opened doors? Guess where the research dollars went, the prestigious awards, the fellowships?
Columbia didn’t manage to admit women until 1983. By that time I was married, already a journalist, already a mother. Good thing I hadn’t waited around to be noticed. I had a two year old son by the time I read “Andrea Solomon never expected to be a pioneer. But that’s what she became in 1983, when she arrived on campus as part of the first class of women entering Columbia.” Yup, that’s a disgrace.
I love how you give my ability to change the world through my “activism” so much weight. It really makes me smile because what’s really going on is a global movement that has some pretty high profile people working on it. My discussion of that is fairly incidental.
I have no idea why you are trying to bring up the “upsides” of patriarchy once again. Citing the same old lame shit again doesn’t move the ball any. Patriarchy is a dominance hierarchy. The only people who might potentially benefit from it in any significant way are the elite White men who are at the very apex, and even they lose out because in order to have that level of power, they have to kill off part of their humanity to do so.
If you are going to pursue the asshole route, I’m not going to talk to you any longer. Calling out systemic abuse and entitlement is only curtailing the rights of abuser and harassers to do so. The sexuality and sexual expression of decent men is in no danger.
My friend just got someone kicked off of Medium for breaking their rules around trivializing abuse. “We do not allow posts or accounts that glorify, celebrate, downplay, or trivialize violence, suffering, abuse, or deaths of individuals or groups.” Keep it up and you’ll get reported too.
Somewhere between 95–100% of the women you know, including your mother and grandmother, have experienced some form of sexual harassment — from street harassment all the way up to rape. Most women have had multiple experiences with this. I’d recount to you the litany of my personal experiences, which began at about age 10, (pretty typically when all this begins), but I don’t wish to have my personal trauma denigrated and mocked, so I won’t.
