That’s the way that James and I see things at this point in our lives. Someone wants to try something…. OK, well let’s see if we can make that happen. I’ve done things that I’m not particularly keen to do again (have sex in public) but I’m still glad I tried it because now I know that’s not my thing.

When our lover Tamara invited her friend Lane to join us one time, we all had “the talk” about what is on and off the table. We pretty much agreed with him that our limits are “always wear a condom for any kind of penetration” and treat each other with respect.

When we used to go to a “lifestyle” club I was often surprised by all of the rules and limits that many people had. Obviously, people should do what they want to and not do what they don’t want to sexually, but there was clearly a lot of fear, possessiveness, and hang-ups in play.